Connected, Present, And In My NOW!

Jani Roberts: 00:00:07

What? Life isn't supposed to suck. Get out of here. Life is supposed to be good for me? I don't think so. Truth? Did you know that you have the power to create your own reality? True? Did you know that you can live the life that you've always desired? Holy? That's right. And that's why we're here. Are you ready? Unless you're on Joy overload, you've come to the right place, it's time to get out of your own way and start creating more of what you want, and less of what you don't end up with the excuses. I'm your host, Jani Roberts, let's do this.

Jani Roberts: 00:00:51

Welcome back, everyone, I am really excited. Today it's going to be juicy. We are talking about love today. We are all about love here at this podcast, we are about inspiring love, spreading love, being the love. It's all so good. So, so good. So welcome, guys, this particular conversation around love is going to be more general, not so much about relationships, other than the one that we have with ourselves, and not specifically about self love. But generally, it's obviously the foundation, or at least a very foundational component of our work, it's important to understand that we're coming from one of two places. As we move through this life experience, we are either coming from a place of love, or we are coming from a place of fear. Let me give you an example. When you're feeling appreciation, compassion, joy connected, these feelings, or emotions resonate closer to the energy of love, than for example, doubt, anger, frustration, these resonate closer to the emotion of fear. Now, fear is a very emotional is a very powerful emotion, let's put it that way. And the ego is very fear based. So we're gonna get into this, this is where the doubt comes in. This is where we have those not so inspirational conversations with ourselves. I've got no judgment around that I have those conversations. I'm always transparent with you. And I promise I always will be.

Jani Roberts: 00:02:42

However, as a result of the work. I don't judge myself nearly the way I used to. I am not hard on myself like that. I'm not it's not even in the ballpark. And when I start doing that thing I used to do, I can almost laugh it off. There I go, judging myself. Like I'm not getting enough of that from the rest of the world. Right? So this ego is a part of us. And it's very important that we understand that when these thoughts come in, we got to look at what's triggering them. And how are they making us feel? If nothing is more important than that we feel good. And we know that's a fact. Then we got to get to it. We've got to check in and dig a little deep sometimes. Where's that coming from? Have you ever had just the other day, I had a thought come into my mind, I was in a really good place having a great day. And random. This not good feeling thought came in now I didn't have a dream about that old story. I didn't see a movie that reminded me of it. I wasn't talking to anybody about it. It just creeped in. Dammit. So I didn't panic, I do the work I understand. So I was able to look at it and go, Alright, I just killed that. That's interesting. I'm just gonna let that float on by very interesting. Checking in, I don't need to make it into something. That's not what I'm checking in with myself. I want to stay in a good feeling place just like you do. And this is something that we all have in common with. So doing this practice and getting out in front of those kinds of thoughts, is what it's all about. When I'm coming from a place of love, it's easy to do that. When I'm already feeling fear. Not so easy. So we're creating very different experiences, depending on where we are on this emotional scale. The fact that we're coming from a place of love when we're aware of our oneness with others is a game changer.

Jani Roberts: 00:05:02

Because when we're extending love, think about this, when we're extending love, if someone is standing there and talking to us, even when we really don't want to hear about it, it's not important to us in the moment, we have things we need to do. But we can take a pause, and be present. Because we want to come from a place of love, that make everything all about us, then we're going to, we're going to be sitting in a place of peace. We're going to be connected and present in in our now connected, present. And in my now, connected, present and in mind, now that sounds like heaven. That's a that feels really good. I am connected. I'm coming from a place of love. I'm present in my now. Yeah, that feels good. Now, you might say to yourself, when you're in a really good feeling place, again, that's easy. Because you're in it's a slice, I haven't what you're in, right now you're feeling very much in love, and you are feeling that oneness of your environment. So of course, when we have a lot going on, that is not that it's going to be a little more work. But it's doable. Because we want to stay in that good feeling place. If we don't try, then we just shut ourselves down. And then we begin manifesting a world that is not loving, and that is not peaceful. That is actually painful, painful for us and probably painful for others. To me, that sounds like hell. So every moment, we're either choosing love or fear, it's as though we're also we're actually choosing between heaven and hell. Hmm. Interesting, interesting, I get to choose, it's a process, I get it. You know, when you're sitting in a mess, and there's a lot going on, and it's freaking you out, I get it, it's very easy to step out of your power. But it's actually easier to stand in it, because when you step out of it, then you got that residual effect of all of that. And we all know, there's always going to be shit happening. Always. Our eyes are wide open, we get it. However, we're going to and I'm going to say we because I know you're in this with me, we are going to release that struggle, we are going to connect to our practice. And we're going to choose wisely. So if you think about what's going on in your life, right now, when you think about the situations, the relationships that you're in, or the relationship you have with yourself, this is where the work begins. This is where we start by paying attention to what's going on. If we're not paying attention, it's going to be hard to get out in front of it. And that's why we're in this work. That's why we choose to practice. That's why we like having these kinds of conversations. Because we know that it's true. So when I slip into a situation, whether I feel like I, you know initiated that or someone else did. I'm going to tap into how I feel. How do I feel about this conversation? Is it annoying me? So taking me down a rabbit hole? I don't want to go down? What's working about it? What isn't? How does it feel? What feels good, what doesn't feel good? Very important. You know, my niece is great story. She was about five, she's a mom now. She's in her 20s. But she was five, about five at the time. And I had the most profound conversation with her.

Jani Roberts: 00:08:56

Actually, she had a profound conversation with me, I just kind of stood there with my chin on the floor. I felt like I should, you know, lay down on the couch and read your check. It was so obvious as I was observing her and she was communicating this story to me that she was so connected. The story is about going to a dentist she had just gone for the first time. And my sister and I you know we talked about it, we were basically creating all kinds of fear that was unnecessary but based on our own experience now, I am completely terrified of the dentist and there's a story around that doesn't matter. But I traumatizing Okay. Can't do it. So I had to know, had to know. How did she do this so easily? And I asked her, you know, why is it so easy for you? And she just looked at me with that gorgeous face of hers and said you know We just have to get started. It's either yucky or yummy.

Jani Roberts: 00:10:07

And I like to choose yummy. How amazing is this? And of course, I'm paraphrasing a bit, I'm trying to remember it to the best of my ability that she said she starts snapping her fingers. And she's like, you just gotta get started. Once you get started, it's just like it's over before you know it. And I thought, wow, I could live my life by this. Just choose yucky or yummy. Huh, yucky fear, yummy, love. Kids are freaking brilliant, when we feel is that we've made some kind of mistake in our life. And we really mess things up. That fear creeps right in like, oh, you blew it again. It's a great opportunity, really an opportunity for us to go right there and say, Hey, I did the best I could, knowing what I knew in the moment. Next time, I'll try to do a little bit better. But at the time, I thought that was yummy. And I went for it. Never really into some big time self sabotage. And we could say, I knew that was going to be a cluster, but I did it anyway. Alright, we need to look at that a little bit deeper. But mistakes, I don't think so. You know, if you look at the biblical reference to the word sin, it's actually an archery word, it means that you missed the mark, which is really saying the same thing as you just thought. Without love, you aim for something that you wanted. And instead of coming from a place of love and compassion, you did so coming from a place of doubt and fear. Like, you know, there's not enough to go around or something for everyone. That whole like no pain, no gain concept. This will take you straight to anxiety and pain, which again, sounds like hell to me.

Jani Roberts: 00:12:09

So overcoming the negative thoughts? How is that done? It's done through love, always through love. I want to share with you this message from the depths of myself from my soul. I want you to feel the truth in the statement that you get to choose love. You don't have to choose anything else you can. And you probably will. So lie, I probably won't always every single time in my life experience, choose love. But I'm aware of what I'm choosing. I'm paying closer attention to how I feel. And so are you. At some point, we have to just get rid of our disguises. Stop trying to be something we are not. So that we're able to tap into who we are. recognize ourselves for how awesome we are and how powerful we are. I mean, we get to choose this. Yeah, big deal. Really, really big deal. So we can tap in, or we can shut down. And regardless of what we do, we're not getting it wrong. We're just sifting and sorting. And leaning always toward the love. As you're moving through your week, this week, is going from emotion to emotion check in when you start to feel that in your gut, like that defensive feeling or that anxiety, or that? Are you liking me not again, kind of thing like when that starts to rise up, pause, check in and make a conscious choice. Where do you want to go? Where do you want to go? Because you really do get to choose my friend. You really do. And there are so many people who are beginning to understand this power. And they're just saying no to a lot of the bullshit. They're testing the truth. And it's working. They're able to cast that fear out and draw the love in the love never left. It's just what we're giving our attention to where we choose to stand. We're supposed to have other things than love come in. But where do we choose to stand? And we make it a priority. Like don't mess with me. Don't mess with my joy.

Jani Roberts: 00:15:06

I'm living in the yummy. This is where I want to be. Yeah, even during the hardest conversations, the hardest experiences that we're going through, and they are hard. I know. I feel you. We get to choose. Remember who you are. You represent love, you're worthy of love. And I understand not everybody grew up knowing that I get it. There's a lot of Sticky, sticky childhoods and dark stuff going on. But we're not victims. We aren't who we were, when we were kids. And we're going to change as we move forward. We can choose forgiveness which is of love. We can choose to let go of all of that. Release it and step into a world that looks very different feels very different. And create something very different for ourselves. Oh, yeah. See, this is where it gets juicy. So quiet your mind know that it's all good. And you can absolutely know that I have nothing. Absolutely nothing. But love for you. We're just big kids. Yucky or yummy. What's it going to be? Alright guys, that's it for this week. I got nothing but love for you. Talk to you next time. Peace.