Are Your Beliefs True Or Are You Making Shit Up?

Jani Roberts: 00:00:07

What? Life isn't supposed to suck? Get out of here. Life is supposed to be good for me? I don't think so. True. Did you know that you have the power to create your own reality? True? Did you know that you can live the life that you've always desired? Holy? That's right. And that's why we're here. Are you ready? Unless you're on Joy overload, you've come to the right place, it's time to get out of your own way and start creating more of what you want, and less of what you don't end up with the excuses. I'm your host Jani Roberts. Let's do this.

Jani Roberts: 00:00:51

Welcome back. Last week, we talked about thoughts, and the progression of thoughts, to beliefs, to patterns of behavior, and to the reality that we're experiencing. This week, we're going to focus more on those beliefs. Let's dig deep, let's jump right in. So if you did not join us last week, no worries, it will be very helpful for you to go back and listen to that episode. Because the thoughts, the thoughts that we are thinking are the foundation of what we're experiencing. And so understanding that peace is key. So take your time, go back, even if you did listen to it, maybe listen to it again, and just really get a grasp on that make the notes that you need to make, you know, start to charter, this journey for yourself. When we talk about beliefs, we are talking about something that is very much ingrained in our being, these beliefs that we carry with us absolutely are connected to what we're experiencing. And if we're unaware of what our beliefs are, if we're kind of distracted from them, cut off from them, unaware of them, then we are naturally going to feel a disconnect. We are going to feel stuck, limited in what we're able to create experience. And we'll find ourselves in more of a struggle. Hey, look, we all want to experience more joy in our lives. We're in agreement about this. I know. So, absolutely. We want to get in touch with what it is that we believe that is true. And what it is that we believe that is untrue. Because at the end of the day, we get to decide, because we get to choose our thoughts and our thoughts create our beliefs. So there it is, there's the power that we have, that's the power that we can step into. It's really, really exciting to think about. So I want you this week to jot down beliefs that you have about yourself, about others about your life. This can go into like many or subcategories your work. And of course, all of this includes your relationships, the one that you have with yourself, as well as the multiple relationships you have in your life. So start there with me. What do I believe to be true? And again, we need to write this down. Now, hang with me here because we don't need to go all dark in this work. And I know we can go there quickly. I at least I can't. Obviously I can't speak for you. But I can speak from my own experience. And it would be very easy for me to step into dark places that I simply don't want to step into. Not so much now. But before when I was just starting the work, I didn't want to think about fill in the blank. So here we are. We've got to identify what it is that we believe.

Jani Roberts: 00:03:55

So I'm going to give you some examples. They might be you know, something that you can really relate to or not at all. But I think stories are key because they help us to relate. And they help us to identify our own story. So let's take a look at our childhoods. Again, no need to go too deep. What do I believe around it? I could keep this so simple. It was good. It was bad. It was loving, it was unloving. It was violent, it was safe. Simple. Identify, because that's a belief that you have if you write that down, I have zero judgment around it. There's no right or wrong here. You can't get this wrong. But if this is what you believe, jot it down. And then we're going to go into a little Byron Katie work where we take a look at what is really true. What is absolutely true. So now I want you to and if you need to pause the pause this just pause and take take a few minutes and write down what you need to come back.

Jani Roberts: 00:04:57

I want you to take a look at the first thing that you wrote down, I believe, fill in the blank. What is it? Now I want you to ask yourself the question. Is that really true? Saying that it's true because somebody else told it to you that's that's not going to work. You have to believe in your heart, or your gut, whatever you want to refer to it. As you you absolutely without any question, believe this to absolutely be true. I'll throw a few out there. I am unlovable, you believe absolutely 100% That is completely and totally true. No judgement. Just asking the question? Or is it a belief that you picked up along the way that you assumed was true? Because everybody that you trusted and loved told you that? That was your truth? Possibly. And we need to remember that just because we believe it doesn't make it true. We're questioning our beliefs. That's what we're doing. We're questioning them. Now, if we really question and we come to that same answer, then that's our business. Let me throw a couple more out there. I am safe. In other words, within the environment that I live, and function, I feel completely safe to be who I truly am. I feel as though I am completely able to be myself. I'm fully comfortable. I feel loved. I feel accepted. I feel safe. Is that true? Not kind of true. Not sort of true. Not true on Monday, Wednesday and Friday, but not on the weekend. Is it true? Constantly. And hey, things are going to move around and change in our lives all the time. But I'm just talking about in this moment. As you're listening to this, what are things about yourself and your experience that you believe? Here's one, I am capable of creating the life that I want? That I deserve? And I I know, without doubt I should have? Do I believe it? First of all, do I believe I deserve it? Second of all, do I believe that I have the ability to create what I want and desire. So there's a worthiness question question. And there's a capability question here. What do I believe? Do I believe in asking for help? So what's the statement, I believe, in asking for help? You know, for some people asking for help is a sign of weakness. They know it would be a good idea. But they don't do it. Because it's weak. It's just something they shouldn't do. So they're struggling all the time, I really need help. I should ask somebody for some help. But I don't I don't want people to think whatever fill in the blank there. I don't want people to think I'm weak. I don't want people to think I'm not well, I don't think I don't want people to judge me. All of it. We're all dealing with all of it. Here's what I know, if we were sitting in a circle, and I asked you to write down on a piece of paper, two really intense shit that you're dealing with in your life right now. And you jotted it down, you just kind of abbreviated it, and you wanted it up, and you threw it in the middle of the circle. And I went in and I mixed them all up, and you took someone else's. I can't say this with 100% certainty, but I can say it with a very high percentage of certainty.

Jani Roberts: 00:08:23

You'd be blown away by this shit that other people are dealing with as well. In other words, we are so much more alike than different. Without question to the point where you might go, You know what, I'll just take my own shit back because at least I know it. I'm familiar with it. Hmm. Deep breath in, deep breath out. This is food for thought. This is this is real. And if I want to change what I'm experiencing, I got to look at what I believe. And as you start to do this, you may have moments where like, Where the hell did that belief come from? Who taught me that? I didn't teach myself that did I, you'll start having these conversations with yourself. Walking yourself through this work. Something else you might bump into what we refer to here it a as the blame game. What's that all about? Well, just what you think. It's about blaming others for where we are and what we're experiencing. So I can play my mother because she never loved me. And she told me I was worthless. I could blame my spouse for the same thing. I could blame my parents for loving me too much.

Jani Roberts: 00:09:25

They smothered me. I could blame my spouse who cheated on me. I could blame a teacher who abused me. I could blame a family member who abused me. I mean, it's it's justifiable that we want to blame because big hard, difficult, nasty sometimes stuff happens to us. And it's not fair. It just it just it's stuck there. And we don't know what to do with it. And we don't know why it happened. And here comes the belief. Well, I guess it happened to me because I deserved it. I must be a bad person. Maybe God is punishing me for something that I did, I don't know. But bad things just keep happening to me. So I'm blaming justifiably, but I'm also building beliefs, as I say these things to myself is I build strength in these thoughts. I make them stronger and stronger, because I think them over and over and over again, until they become a belief. And then I live with them day in, day out. So this week's work is to look at this list, what is it that I believe and have fun with this? Again, this doesn't need to be heavy, maybe maybe you want to write down, I believe that I have incredible potential. And like my voice just dropped when I said that which I find so interesting. It's like, I'm keeping it a secret, because I don't completely totally believe it. But it's really cool to think about. Now I can tell you that now, I believe that about myself, not that I don't ever waver or have doubtful moments. That's part of the human experience. But I know better now, because I'm doing the work, I know better. So to you, there's a part of you, that knows you, your inner being knows you how good you are, how worthy you are, how well intended you are. And self forgiveness is going to be a big part of what we dive into a big part.

Jani Roberts: 00:11:26

Now when we work collectively as a community at EY. And we go through these courses together, we have support. And that's what really encouraged me and inspired me to do this podcast, because I just want to, I just want to share this with people. And I want you to know that you're not alone on this journey, that we have so much in common. And we are really striving for so many of the same things. And that there is love and there is support for you more than you could possibly imagine. without judgment, without agenda. This is true. And if there's a part of you, that believes or thinks and is thinking right now, no way. Last time I tried something like this, edited it, here comes the here comes here comes the story, here comes the fear, here comes the ego, pushing against resisting the possibility. But then there's your inner being also resonating with parts of what I'm saying, enough to just crack your heart open to the truth, which is your beliefs are creating your patterns of behavior. If you believe you're not worthy, you're going to attract experiences into your life that make you feel unworthy, you're going to attract people into your life that make you feel unworthy. And this is dangerous territory, because we can become addicted to our suffering. We are so free, we can choose bondage. What kind of bondage, bondage of the mind? Do you remember that amazing song Free Your Mind? And the rest will follow? Yeah, oh, hell yeah. This is about freeing up our thoughts, and creating new beliefs. And we can do it. We can do this. This is been being done by hundreds of millions of people around the world for centuries. This is nothing new. But it might be new to you. It certainly was new to me in this lifetime. Lots of discovery work lots of aha moments, but this innate sense of, yes, what I'm hearing is true. I have to I have to see this do I have to investigate this? I know this more for me, in this experience of life. I know it. And I'm not talking about more stuff. Or more just money. Money's great. Don't get me wrong. I love money. But it's not the money I love. It's the freedom it can give me. It can also put me into deeper bondage as a whole other conversation we'll get to when we talk about prosperity. So we have lots of work to do here, warriors, lots of work to do. And the good news is,you can't get it wrong, and you're never going to get it done. I look forward to talking to you next time. Be well, peace.